Saturday, 19 March 2016

Introverted, emotional or sensitive?



Introverted, emotional or sensitive is a subject that has come up in many of my conversations recently. I am not an expert on any of these but feel a constant question over emotions and how they affect me individually and others in relation to me. I have seen that to be introverted is the new cool and emotional often portrayed as something negative. Sensitive on the other hand has connotations of good but weak. Or at least this is my take on it. Alongside these 3 words a further question arises, are we all made equal? I am guessing not from the myriad of people out there with their multitude of variations where emotional intelligence is concerned.

I would say I fall under all three categories but at the same time feel strongly that these and their counterparts are simply a tool for helping us understand ourselves, rather than something that is inherently good or bad. Its Like a tool kit full of a small range of tools we are born to use. These tools have a natural purpose like a hammer for hitting things or scissors for cutting. By understanding them you can not only bang a nail into a wall but you can create a a building. For me introversion and extroversion are similar. I was strongly effected by the negative associations that people had with introversion when i was growing up. i would get asked why i am quiet or shy. i learned to hide it in favour of a set of behavior patterns that would be considered extroverted, but little did i realize that to do this took a lot more energy than the natural extroverts used. I got exhausted more quickly and had to hide alone for a while to recuperate my energy. This in term made me feel bad because i wasn't living up to the extroverted ideal. Recently i came across an article on Linked In celebrating the abilities of introverts and it started me on the journey to exploring this personality trait i seem to have and what it means for me. Further letting go of some of these patterns that in actual fact hurt me energetically and leave me drained. I am in a process of becoming more myself and showing it.

I think for myself the idea of being emotional is a matter of opinion and seems to be a lot less clear than the personality traits above. My recent discovery of a book called the highly sensitive person while slow going was intriguing for the idea that someone had put some science behind the idea of being sensitive. i would consider myself someone with deep seated emotions and until about 9 years ago never opened up to anyone. The process of sharing my inner world with others has been difficult and rewarding. But the more i share the more i realize how truly unique all are in our experiences of emotions, their intensity and complexity. Added to this is the part we give them in our lives. Some ive sway to their emotional sub world while others hardly allow them to exist.

Over sensitivity to others is also intriguing me. When i was younger i became really confused when what i sensed of others around me didn't match with what they talked about. With some they later confessed that i saw more quickly than they had what they were feeling and that they needed time to catch up, sometimes resenting me for my sensitivity. While with others, they either weren't wanting to admit to the emotions or i had got it wrong. Making the whole process very hard to learn from. Because its only in hindsight that i can ever tell what the situation was and how i can improve the perception of emotions in people around me in the future.

So in conclusion i dub myself an introvert with extrovert tendencies. Deeply and complexly emotional while being highly sensitive to those around me. The challenge for me through the years has always to avoid my chameleon tendencies of fitting in with the needs and wishes of those around me and find a firm footing for myself to be as I was meant to be. The search is still on.

 

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Wednesday, 2 March 2016

21 Beautifully Nostalgic photos of Buenos Aires

Yesterday i began sorting through the many thousands of photos i have collected up over the years. As a professional dancer i got to travel to many interesting places around the globe for giving workshops and performances and the wonderful excuse of going to Argentina for training. With 11 visits to Buenos Aires under my belt and each for 1-3 months. Its been a place where i have grown as a person, fallen in love, learned my art and fallen in love with a culture. My Business name Cielito comes from the first place i stayed in Argentina called El Cielo, aptly named for being on the third floor and having an amazing roof top terrace completely open to the sky.  Along side the dancing and upgrading my dance level, i often got out to photograph the city. It was a wonderful way to enjoy the weather and see something more of this amazingly beautiful and varied city. Stepping out of the tourist traps into the unknown backstreets with political graffiti, street art of all shapes and sizes and somehow a more authentic Buenos Aires than the places you might first visit on arrival. Its funny to think back that i was very shy about taking a lot of photos with a good camera, mostly because of the poverty i saw there and felt strange having so much myself. Other times i took out a very basic small camera because of this feeling, so this restricted the quality i could get at times.

One of my favourite things to photograph is the combination of interesting buildings and all types of weather. Another interest that works well within this is street art combined with people authentically doing their thing rather than posing for the camera. Mixing up textures, shape and light sometimes with strong edits and often I show the raw photo as it was taken.

 Buenos Aires is more than the capital of tango. When walking in the streets and moving through various Barrios or districts, one gets the distinct feeling of stepping between multiple worlds. Where the boundery between one and another can be the difference of a street. With a myriad of themes ranging from political graffiti, forgotten gardens, highrised buildings, the reserve, the river itself, florida with well kept modern feeling, plaza Dorriego with its mix of tourism and antiquated nostalgia to name a few. Buenos Aires is well worth a visit for anyone who loves buildings and history, not to mention the rich folk dance culture of argentina that is often faded out by the better known Argentine tango.



Avenida 9 de Julio, Buenos Aires


Avenida 9 de Julio, Buenos Aires


La Boca, Buenoa Aires


La Boca, Buenoa Aires


Palace of the Argentine National Congress, Buenos Aires


Plaza de Mayo, Buenos aires


El  caminito, La Boca, Buenos Aires


El  caminito, La Boca, Buenos Aires


Defensa, Buenos  Aires

DNI estudio, Buenos Aires

 
 Estados Unidos, Buenos Aires


San Telmo, Buenos Aires


Avenida Paseo de Colon


El  caminito, La Boca, Buenos Aires

 
San Telmo, Buenos Aires

Avenida Intendente de Hernan M.Giralt, Buenos Aires

Avenida Intendente de Hernan M.Giralt, Buenos Aires 

 
Rivadavia, Buenos Aires 

 

Rivadavia, Buenos Aires 

Avenida Entre Rios, Buenos Aires
 
Plaza San Martin, Buenos Aires (Sepia edit)

Like to see more photos? Then check out the link below:

Photography of living ice
http://www.chicloca.com/2016/01/photography-nature-images-living-ice.html


Black and white photos with a splash of colour by Gine Maie

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