Showing posts with label aspiration. Show all posts
Showing posts with label aspiration. Show all posts

Thursday, 18 May 2017

Are you stressed, tired, over worked, have the feeling lots of things...



Are you stressed, tired, over worked, have the feeling lots of things are going strange or wrong and people are taking what they can get when you don't have the energy to be strong?
A little while ago i came by accident on a way to deal with my stress. I am someone who gives a 110% in all things that i do and if i feel its not going as well as it should i can easily feel bad about it. This is definitely the case with people who you try to help and for whatever reason the situation turns around on you. From you helping to getting a back lash that can happen for any number of reasons.

Rather than feel bad about the situations and wollow in self pity or the loss of empowermeant you can do something about it. A small tuning in exercise that enables you to get clear, get active and help yourself into a positive state.

Take a deep breath and write the most comprehensive list of all the things you are feeling, what is stressing you out or making you tired and practical things you feel bad about in some way for whatever reason.

Once you have made the list recognize points that are:
1. Feelings to explore but not be ruled by.
2. Practical things that can be sorted out with planning. Make a plan to get them done with a lot extra time than you actually need.
3. Urgent things that you can sort out quickly and will almost instantly give a feeling of relief.

This is one of the most self empowering things i have done for myself in a long time. I keep forgetting that this works for me so i thought by sharing i might remember better myself.

Sunday, 28 August 2016

Art work and creativity by Isolde Kanikani

 Art has always played a huge part in my life. Whether it be with painting, dancing making music or helping others to make art, its always been there. Taking many forms like modeling for photographers and model shoots. Sometimes these get shown and sometimes remain something hidden or become part of a paid for portfolio by some business or artist or other. Most of all art has been a way of relaxing, expressing present situations and exploring myself in process. The end result being secondary. Now i am finding some of the pictures that have moved me and i am left wondering what to do with this part of my world.













Tuesday, 21 June 2016

Valhalla that is my heart where loved ones reside



These last months of situations and last years of in one sense losses in my life have lead to a somewhat sound sense of what death means to me. Be it the little death or a shedding of skins that leads to new possibilities of horizons, le petit morte which is definitely not as bad as it sounds, the death of body of loved ones and even my own mortality. Death can be both beautiful and positive as it can be upsetting causing deep emotions of grief  and loneliness. So a half poem half text dedicated to all these myriad moments where one reality it shedded and let go for a new one.

Hiding from feeling anything
And yet not hiding at all
am i in shock or denial,
Intense pain or exuberant freedom
that is intoxicating every cell of my body.
Shedding the skins of bounderies and hurts past
for a radiant glistening skin

i am human, i am myself again
i am feeling and analytical and living
I am my loves and i am my friends
I am all that is my family
There is no we anymore, no second heart to care for
Only my own, which seems to be a busy place
I miss your heart and realize i am surrounded by them

Valhalla that is my heart where loved ones reside,
by choosing to feel intensely i open myself to love
and pain in equal measure,
Not to love is no life at all
Valhalla of my heart where you reside
Grandpas, grandmas, my beloved uncle, 
father, mother, brother and cousins

Valhalla that is my heart with open doors to another world
of acceptance and love, closeness, longing and desire.
Existing and believing we are worth our deepest most profound dreams
Thankful to the man who showed me love exists,
and to another who showed me what is could become,
to the others who have touched my soul with your grace
others who brought pain so bad as to make me renew myself.

Valhalla that is my hurt hurting with continual expansion,
yet feeling at peace with its new metamorphosed existance,
Friends who are like stable rocks, new ones like family you never had.
Old ones who have become brothers and sisters
and a cousin who for eternity will be a mix of these all.
People keep you company on the road fo life,
taking you down the highway  with its easy access and flow
At times down a hidden forgotten path
with obstacles that befuddle you and keep you lost
until miraculously you find the main road leading continuously
into the near or far future where i will also rest.
But for now touching every now and again the love that resides in my heart.

Monday, 11 January 2016

What is the difference between femininity and feminism. Whats your take?


 


This has been a subject that comes up time and time again both in conversation and with myself. Interestingly its also associated with my traveling and staying for longer time in different cultures where femininity means something different for the natives than other places i have visited. Often when we are at  meal with friends chilling out after a gorgeous meal. Feminism has had a huge impact on some cultures while leaving others in the dark. Some cultures went so far with certain aspects of the charge to only alienate men into a place of not knowing how to relate to the women in their lives. While i am truly thankful for the freedoms the feminist movement made for women, i mourn the impact its had on a large number of men who have been left emasculated.

Femininity is often associated with feminism. Someone close to me was strongly feminist when i was growing up, sharing firm beliefs about the differences between men and women. After a while i needed to protect myself as i could see that to not do so would result in me as a young child taking on too many of these ideas. Partly because they seemed to be more about the individual tellers insecurities and history, and partly i suspected men weren't that terrible and women were just as bad. On top of this though i felt for myself that feminism was more focused on the differences between men and women and often putting a bad light on men, and less concerned with the strength of women. Maybe feminism went too far in some areas, creating a new generation of emasculated men and i feel its really important to thank of those women who created many of the freedoms i enjoy today. But are the women of today really making the most of it?

Feminism has also set up this polarity between men and women, maybe its a reaction to a polarity already existing from earlier times. This movement somehow creating a need that woman are equal to men and therefore need to act like men in order to get further in this world. This polarizing meant that there is some underground internal fight that keeps us continually wondering if we are man enough, or women enough and nowadays not really knowing what we are fighting about.  While we are all vying for the same space of being equal in success and doing this in a perceivably masculine manner, there isn't enough space for everyone to reach this goal. Women aren't playing to their strengths and only enforcing the idea of a mans world.

So again I ask, what is femininity? My take on this is playing to the strengths of my personality and body. I don't think men and women are so different in our basic needs and we can all do a little learning where being true to ourselves is concerned. But there is a big difference in our bodies and its something to not be ashamed of. I openly admit i am not as strong as a man in lifting boxes or pushing broken down cars. I have more energy and endurance than most men i have met. Women are more flexible than men on average and better able to maintain physical endurance than many men. There are many differences than physiological ones and some people go as far as to say that women are more socially able due to the extra x chromosome they have. Mixing my bodies unique capabilities with my personality its an able cocktail of ingredients but it this alone feminine? I feel that there is something extra and it could be that femininity is the mark society leaves on us as girls growing up and is a bit dated. I feel surely that its about empowering myself by harnessing the power i have as a women to get things done and this includes bringing elegance into my life. Being aware of my body language and what this means to others, using it to my advantage in business and help me in social situations. When i am feminine i am intelligent, social, elegant, enticing and playful like a child

In the end we each have to decide what this means to us and how we wish to embody it. Its an intriguing subject to introduce here. For the men too, what does it mean to be a man in this world. If any of you guys out there would like to write an article on this i would love to post here. This is a start and i hope to revisit this topic soon and in more depth.

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Friday, 1 January 2016

Consulting your inner dream dictionary

 

Consulting your inner dream dictionary... no new years resolution list here!

Instead of setting new years resolutions which implies one will surely deliver on a list of things that might or might not be possible. Confining you to the many possible limitations while fulfilling, or simply the feeling of failure if not delivering said item on said list. Open for some suggestions?

 

Tips 1: turn resolutions into aspirations (this tip was given to me by an old friend)


Try out the power of aspirations, aspiring to reach a goal has a very different feel to resolutions and gives room for movement. After all the idea of new years resolutions are to improve oneself or to reach new possibilities. A pattern of setting a list of things we can't actually deliver sets up a self confirming failure pattern. Why do it to yourself? Step out of the cycle and live for the moment, consult your own personal dream dictionary for things that give you energy when aspiring to do them. Enjoy this new found motivation and see where it takes you. Often the journey is richer than the original goal and with any good journey the destination will change anyway suiting your new situation. 

Tip 2: Do away with the inner task list


We clutter our lives and our thoughts with so many must do's and have to's, the wishes of others and the expectations we perceive to be laid upon us. What happens if you step away from the inner task list and search for an activity that enables you to simply get in touch with yourself. As I write this one I know I am suspect of not doing this too. One of the hardest most beautiful things is to live with ourselves as we are and with who we are. When we harshly judge ourselves we step into a pattern of judging others too. When doing this we open up the space for others analysis in return, that becomes still more baggage we place on our internal task list. Stopping the cycle of judgements can help stop yet more incoming tasks but a great secondary result is others around us can feel more peacefulness too. In effect you are de-cluttering your inner space helping stress levels, stepping out of patterns that can hurt you and others and hopefully giving space enough to get in touch with yourself.

 

Tip 3:  Dream dictionary and holding onto dead wood


In this article I am referring to the term dream dictionary, using it as a reference to the innermost wishes, desires and aspirations we have. Sometimes we tell these to the world and sometimes they lay hidden. Some will be easily fulfilled and others may simply be left to one side or vanish when not needed anymore. Maybe you already found your dream girl or dream house. What is lying within the pages of your dream dictionary?

If i show you a few of mine will you show me yours? Any dreams or aspirations you might have and are willing to share can be added to the comment section of this article and would be appreciated.

So some of mine in simple list form (some have are here or already realized and they are in no particular order):
  • to experience a deep love and trust of another human being.
  • to remain in touch with myself and the nature that surrounds me.
  • to learn new things, seek new adventures, continually discovering and exploring.
  • to share love and intimacy with a loved one, a child, pets and caring community creating a feeling of family. It comes from being comfortable with loneliness but choosing to search for more.
The great thing about getting in touch with your aspirations is that clarity bout the dead wood you are carrying in your life also surfaces. This new found awareness and space gives you insight into the things you are holding onto, or pulling away energy. If they aren't in your dream dictionary or working towards something there, then its probably good to let go. Don't do this because this article says so, check it in yourself and make the decision if its the right one. You have to live with the choice. 

Admitting I am terrible at this process myself, moving from natural collector to hoarder. Then at some moment being fed up with stuff that clogs up my living space, physical and metaphysical. I move to organizer and more minimalist. I found it was a huge weight off my shoulders when getting rid of resolutions for new years or otherwise. Finding a do now or let go approach works better for me. Not judging myself is an ongoing learning process, with a perfectionist tendencies relating to work and creative projects its hard to not let this impede on my personal conversation with myself. Many more tips could have been included, in the hope to avoid overload and delve into the simple idea of of touching base with yourself I left these out. 

Enjoyed this article? It would be lovely to hear an aspiration, point out of your dream diary and anything else you would like to share.


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