Showing posts with label blogger. Show all posts
Showing posts with label blogger. Show all posts

Thursday, 18 May 2017

Are you stressed, tired, over worked, have the feeling lots of things...



Are you stressed, tired, over worked, have the feeling lots of things are going strange or wrong and people are taking what they can get when you don't have the energy to be strong?
A little while ago i came by accident on a way to deal with my stress. I am someone who gives a 110% in all things that i do and if i feel its not going as well as it should i can easily feel bad about it. This is definitely the case with people who you try to help and for whatever reason the situation turns around on you. From you helping to getting a back lash that can happen for any number of reasons.

Rather than feel bad about the situations and wollow in self pity or the loss of empowermeant you can do something about it. A small tuning in exercise that enables you to get clear, get active and help yourself into a positive state.

Take a deep breath and write the most comprehensive list of all the things you are feeling, what is stressing you out or making you tired and practical things you feel bad about in some way for whatever reason.

Once you have made the list recognize points that are:
1. Feelings to explore but not be ruled by.
2. Practical things that can be sorted out with planning. Make a plan to get them done with a lot extra time than you actually need.
3. Urgent things that you can sort out quickly and will almost instantly give a feeling of relief.

This is one of the most self empowering things i have done for myself in a long time. I keep forgetting that this works for me so i thought by sharing i might remember better myself.

Wednesday, 1 March 2017

Cat door knocking service... Best business idea ever!

I am walking home, gathering ideas about the ideal image of my business in a few years to come. A question I never ask myself with true conviction as I always get ploughed away by whats practical. Scaling down my ideas before I am even started.

So thinking big and out of the box, I am walking through a neighborhood close to one of my studios. It's cold and wet with winds that blow through your clothing leaving you cold to the bone. A lovely little bundle of joy catches my attention, with a not so joyful expression on its face. It runs up to me and then to the door of its home. Sudden clarity comes with my imagination more like leaping out of the box at this point, sprinting into woods and swimming an ocean. Best business idea ever... a cat door knocking service.

To remind cats pets (their owners) that they indeed need to be let inside to the cozy warmth of their territorial home. A door knocking service where some human prawls through neighborhoods on the search for cats in distress. In one moment came the idea and the next second i was laughing openly in the street. But seriously a cat door opening service, genius!

Many individuals are either creative in business or practical. Taking this as their base of operations that defines the way they plan, step into the world and deliver. Learning to balance these forces is key to successful business, indeed successful anything. Creativity is amazing but usually needs to be grounded in the here, possible and now. Be given legs to stand on in order to materialize. Practicality can often close down the mind for possibility. But hand in hand, they can lead us to projects and business plans that are both innovative and grounded in logic.

Coming back to the cat door knocking service. Its one of those ideas that sounds unique but when you analyse it you soon realise its a no go. Ok i have taken an extreme business idea but its some how so apt. SO visualise the situation for a moment cat outside door who is in need of being let in. The cat is the customer is this case with a need that can be fulfilled with a product or service thats not presently being offered. This is a situation where a business could come in. SO clearly we should set up a door knocking service right? But did you ask yourself (again ludicrous situation):
  • Can the cat afford such a service, is the as secondary client interested to pay? Your business can't thrive on cat cuddles however nice these are. Cats will love you one moment and leave you the next (talking as a cat lover). With the best of intentions customers can be the same so make sure a) you have the possibility of being paid in means that are healthy for your business and b) that you create a fair transaction where like quality of service is given for like quality of payment for said service. Valueing yourself, your product or service is vital. Checking that you can indeed make the necessary income to run a healthy business.
  • If the service was to become a reality and a door was opened for said cat, what do you think their response would be. Obvious one would be to run into the house. But what if the cat is scared by the door knocker or not that bothered about getting in even though its cute fluffiness looks distraught right at this moment in time. Quality of the customer or client is really important.
  • All is not as it seems at face value, did you stop to think if the cat had a specific reason for being outside? Maybe its only one cat in a million, then the need is big in this one case but there aren't many clients out there who will seriously need a cat door knocking service. Market research and questioning about the number of available clients, location and reason for the need.
Taking a little time in the beginning can save a lot of time and money later on. Not being scared to think big, bringing creativity and practicality to heel. Its always possible to down size an idea. The big ideas give information about your goals and desires as a business starter and maker that are truly insightful. Planning a strategy for success not only is useful for new businesses but helps to focus the writer on the core goals, clients and finance aspects of a business. Giving a clearer vision of the businesses identity for promotion, who the business is for and how it addresses the need of this target group. After careful analysis of about 30 minutes and a lot of laughing (reason it took so long) i decided that i won't be opening a cat door knocking service.





Sunday, 28 August 2016

Art work and creativity by Isolde Kanikani

 Art has always played a huge part in my life. Whether it be with painting, dancing making music or helping others to make art, its always been there. Taking many forms like modeling for photographers and model shoots. Sometimes these get shown and sometimes remain something hidden or become part of a paid for portfolio by some business or artist or other. Most of all art has been a way of relaxing, expressing present situations and exploring myself in process. The end result being secondary. Now i am finding some of the pictures that have moved me and i am left wondering what to do with this part of my world.













Crutches... New chapter to the crazy chronicles

Thursday 25th august i manage to step down on a spade hard to dig up the stubborn bamboo plant i wanted to take and plant in my new studio. during the forceful action my flimsy shoe breaks and i end up bringing vulnerable flesh down on sharp spade top.  I can't put my weight on it so i crawl through the garden including all the weeds and things i have cut back to leave the garden nice, calling for my father who has fallen asleep in the big armchair in the living room. Then my ex man returns home and finds me half sitting inside and half outside trying not to make a mess of the house with profusely bleeding foot. we bandage it and he picks me up and takes me to the car where we get the foot checked out at the doctor.

Carried into the emergency room and the doctor smiling at the sight, me sheepishly half laughing half smiling. The doctor examines the foot and gives the news that no tendons are broken which is lucky a htis would mean months of recovery. Simply a few nerves might be damages but these will grow back in time. Also that i need a number of stitches but the anesthetic will probably be as painful as the stitches. So i decide to go for the stitches without anesthetic, my god was it painful but i managed to not move or cry out until the last stitch which was directly on a nerve or sensitive point. the last one really throbs even now.

After the doctors and back to the house, i go with my father to pick up some crutches so at least i am able to be a little independent in the next days. Its amazing here, you walk into a shop and hand over your insurance information. Sign a form and eh voula you have rented crutches.

Thursday after getting back home i tried to go to the supermarket just down the road in good old stubborn Isolde style. It was hard and i managed it, but my god do i have a new found respect for anyone who can't simply go to a shop without some walking aid or wheelchair. As a dancer after day 3 i am itching to walk, dance, run, jump as i am used to. so trying to put sunday to use with the finishing of my book.


Saturday, 23 July 2016

The quality of equality, equalizing or celebrating the individual?



At the moment within Compania Cielito we are working behind the scenes to set up a structure of roles for each individual who is also dancing in the group. This enables us to keep the costs down while giving each individual the possibility to give more to the group process through their own professional and personal abilties. Making the team far stronger than if you rely on one individuals capabiltiies that are always and very naturally limited to a set number of skills and weaknesses.

In one of our meetings a question came up about equality from one of our members, who assumed that equality meant that everyone should have control over all aspects of the teams behind the scenes work. It raises an interesting question about equality in relation to effective team work, individuals taking responsibility and authority in areas of expertise. What is equality? whether in a team like ours, the battle between the sexes in the feminist movement or in a relationship between 2 people. In many ways similar to the situation of a communist regime or the purely capitalist approach seen as two extremes.

My take on it is that there are two basic options:

1. Equality can be taken as the giving of equal power and authority in all aspects, usually decisions are made by group consensus with some individuals pushing an agenda. Equalizing regardless of social standing, income, abilities.

2. Equality through the realization that we are all different, with this having different skills, weaknesses, interests, motivations and formed conceptualization about what the world means to us. Within a team or company the hope is to create a team of people with complimentary skills that also bypass the effect an individuals weakness might have.

These different idea of equality are often the reason for misunderstanding within our group process. I wonder now if the first understanding is more governed by personal wish to control rather than trust others to get things done. A personal element also exists that people want to do things they like to do and this approach to equality makes it seem viable.

I am a big advocate of the second understanding of equality. Over the years in various group processes i have started from the first one as an ideal for the way i am working with people. My experience was that there was a lot of inclarity in situations, individuals pushing for things they want or need at the expense of what we do as a collective and at times at the expense of other individuals in the group. It also means that individuals don't feel seen for what they are able to do and often don't recieve enough authority from the rest of the team to be effective.

SO... now in this process i think its time to get clear that we are aiming for a way of working that celebrates the individuals ability within our team, giving them authority by entrusting them with the responsibility to get it done. Actively following their lead and giving help and support when needed. Less formal structuralization and more clarity of our roles enabling a free flow of supporting each other rather than being bogged down with formality and procedure. There will always be things we want to do from another role, sometimes there will be a space for this and sometimes not. I have the feeling people should earn the things they want, in the sense that often more work is created to achieve what is wanted so the individual needs to show they are serious and willing to but the work in to make it worth while. Realising that its more than a playground wim but that there are actual skills involved that need learning and appreciating before some aspects of the team work can be shared. Next challenge is to define this idea of working. More thought needed...



Tuesday, 21 June 2016

Valhalla that is my heart where loved ones reside



These last months of situations and last years of in one sense losses in my life have lead to a somewhat sound sense of what death means to me. Be it the little death or a shedding of skins that leads to new possibilities of horizons, le petit morte which is definitely not as bad as it sounds, the death of body of loved ones and even my own mortality. Death can be both beautiful and positive as it can be upsetting causing deep emotions of grief  and loneliness. So a half poem half text dedicated to all these myriad moments where one reality it shedded and let go for a new one.

Hiding from feeling anything
And yet not hiding at all
am i in shock or denial,
Intense pain or exuberant freedom
that is intoxicating every cell of my body.
Shedding the skins of bounderies and hurts past
for a radiant glistening skin

i am human, i am myself again
i am feeling and analytical and living
I am my loves and i am my friends
I am all that is my family
There is no we anymore, no second heart to care for
Only my own, which seems to be a busy place
I miss your heart and realize i am surrounded by them

Valhalla that is my heart where loved ones reside,
by choosing to feel intensely i open myself to love
and pain in equal measure,
Not to love is no life at all
Valhalla of my heart where you reside
Grandpas, grandmas, my beloved uncle, 
father, mother, brother and cousins

Valhalla that is my heart with open doors to another world
of acceptance and love, closeness, longing and desire.
Existing and believing we are worth our deepest most profound dreams
Thankful to the man who showed me love exists,
and to another who showed me what is could become,
to the others who have touched my soul with your grace
others who brought pain so bad as to make me renew myself.

Valhalla that is my hurt hurting with continual expansion,
yet feeling at peace with its new metamorphosed existance,
Friends who are like stable rocks, new ones like family you never had.
Old ones who have become brothers and sisters
and a cousin who for eternity will be a mix of these all.
People keep you company on the road fo life,
taking you down the highway  with its easy access and flow
At times down a hidden forgotten path
with obstacles that befuddle you and keep you lost
until miraculously you find the main road leading continuously
into the near or far future where i will also rest.
But for now touching every now and again the love that resides in my heart.

Saturday, 21 May 2016

Are we fated & is there someone looking out for us up there?

Today has been a day of fun, reminders that somehow the universe knows what one needs and difficulty knowing how to act respectfully in regards to a decision one personally completely doesn't understand. Are we regulated by fate, some force to be defined or simply randomly exist without any guidance at all?

This is such an individual topic without right answers, simply a recognition of how you might feel about events in relation to your life and the possibility of choice.

i can only write about my own experiences today. Today i believe that somehow miraculously the universe sent me the things i needed. In not so many words you could say the universe made me feel beautiful and appreciated by sending me asian guys and a really cute guy i would have liked to get to know a bit more but didn't take the opportunity. I was a bit surprised by it to respond. being followed by a car for a few blocks is fairly normal but the important thing is that it made me laugh where i only felt sad before. It seems that when you are on the right path you are looked after by the universe and when on the bumpy side road to no where its simply difficult. i just got on the highway again after quite some years of bumpy.

So is this a form of reward for being in the right place or is fate such that you get the good with the bad. While i can't answer this question i can feel blessed today. Thank you...


Saturday, 19 March 2016

Introverted, emotional or sensitive?



Introverted, emotional or sensitive is a subject that has come up in many of my conversations recently. I am not an expert on any of these but feel a constant question over emotions and how they affect me individually and others in relation to me. I have seen that to be introverted is the new cool and emotional often portrayed as something negative. Sensitive on the other hand has connotations of good but weak. Or at least this is my take on it. Alongside these 3 words a further question arises, are we all made equal? I am guessing not from the myriad of people out there with their multitude of variations where emotional intelligence is concerned.

I would say I fall under all three categories but at the same time feel strongly that these and their counterparts are simply a tool for helping us understand ourselves, rather than something that is inherently good or bad. Its Like a tool kit full of a small range of tools we are born to use. These tools have a natural purpose like a hammer for hitting things or scissors for cutting. By understanding them you can not only bang a nail into a wall but you can create a a building. For me introversion and extroversion are similar. I was strongly effected by the negative associations that people had with introversion when i was growing up. i would get asked why i am quiet or shy. i learned to hide it in favour of a set of behavior patterns that would be considered extroverted, but little did i realize that to do this took a lot more energy than the natural extroverts used. I got exhausted more quickly and had to hide alone for a while to recuperate my energy. This in term made me feel bad because i wasn't living up to the extroverted ideal. Recently i came across an article on Linked In celebrating the abilities of introverts and it started me on the journey to exploring this personality trait i seem to have and what it means for me. Further letting go of some of these patterns that in actual fact hurt me energetically and leave me drained. I am in a process of becoming more myself and showing it.

I think for myself the idea of being emotional is a matter of opinion and seems to be a lot less clear than the personality traits above. My recent discovery of a book called the highly sensitive person while slow going was intriguing for the idea that someone had put some science behind the idea of being sensitive. i would consider myself someone with deep seated emotions and until about 9 years ago never opened up to anyone. The process of sharing my inner world with others has been difficult and rewarding. But the more i share the more i realize how truly unique all are in our experiences of emotions, their intensity and complexity. Added to this is the part we give them in our lives. Some ive sway to their emotional sub world while others hardly allow them to exist.

Over sensitivity to others is also intriguing me. When i was younger i became really confused when what i sensed of others around me didn't match with what they talked about. With some they later confessed that i saw more quickly than they had what they were feeling and that they needed time to catch up, sometimes resenting me for my sensitivity. While with others, they either weren't wanting to admit to the emotions or i had got it wrong. Making the whole process very hard to learn from. Because its only in hindsight that i can ever tell what the situation was and how i can improve the perception of emotions in people around me in the future.

So in conclusion i dub myself an introvert with extrovert tendencies. Deeply and complexly emotional while being highly sensitive to those around me. The challenge for me through the years has always to avoid my chameleon tendencies of fitting in with the needs and wishes of those around me and find a firm footing for myself to be as I was meant to be. The search is still on.

 

Other articles in the Locura genre:

Consulting your inner dream dictionary

Globe trotter, without the baggage
Lonely planet, Globetrotter without baggage
Lonely planet, globetrotter without the baggage
Lonely planet, Globetrotter without baggage
Lonely planet, Globetrotter without baggage

Cheap tickets to an exotic destination
Cheap tickets to an exotic destination, whats your flight status?



Wednesday, 2 March 2016

21 Beautifully Nostalgic photos of Buenos Aires

Yesterday i began sorting through the many thousands of photos i have collected up over the years. As a professional dancer i got to travel to many interesting places around the globe for giving workshops and performances and the wonderful excuse of going to Argentina for training. With 11 visits to Buenos Aires under my belt and each for 1-3 months. Its been a place where i have grown as a person, fallen in love, learned my art and fallen in love with a culture. My Business name Cielito comes from the first place i stayed in Argentina called El Cielo, aptly named for being on the third floor and having an amazing roof top terrace completely open to the sky.  Along side the dancing and upgrading my dance level, i often got out to photograph the city. It was a wonderful way to enjoy the weather and see something more of this amazingly beautiful and varied city. Stepping out of the tourist traps into the unknown backstreets with political graffiti, street art of all shapes and sizes and somehow a more authentic Buenos Aires than the places you might first visit on arrival. Its funny to think back that i was very shy about taking a lot of photos with a good camera, mostly because of the poverty i saw there and felt strange having so much myself. Other times i took out a very basic small camera because of this feeling, so this restricted the quality i could get at times.

One of my favourite things to photograph is the combination of interesting buildings and all types of weather. Another interest that works well within this is street art combined with people authentically doing their thing rather than posing for the camera. Mixing up textures, shape and light sometimes with strong edits and often I show the raw photo as it was taken.

 Buenos Aires is more than the capital of tango. When walking in the streets and moving through various Barrios or districts, one gets the distinct feeling of stepping between multiple worlds. Where the boundery between one and another can be the difference of a street. With a myriad of themes ranging from political graffiti, forgotten gardens, highrised buildings, the reserve, the river itself, florida with well kept modern feeling, plaza Dorriego with its mix of tourism and antiquated nostalgia to name a few. Buenos Aires is well worth a visit for anyone who loves buildings and history, not to mention the rich folk dance culture of argentina that is often faded out by the better known Argentine tango.



Avenida 9 de Julio, Buenos Aires


Avenida 9 de Julio, Buenos Aires


La Boca, Buenoa Aires


La Boca, Buenoa Aires


Palace of the Argentine National Congress, Buenos Aires


Plaza de Mayo, Buenos aires


El  caminito, La Boca, Buenos Aires


El  caminito, La Boca, Buenos Aires


Defensa, Buenos  Aires

DNI estudio, Buenos Aires

 
 Estados Unidos, Buenos Aires


San Telmo, Buenos Aires


Avenida Paseo de Colon


El  caminito, La Boca, Buenos Aires

 
San Telmo, Buenos Aires

Avenida Intendente de Hernan M.Giralt, Buenos Aires

Avenida Intendente de Hernan M.Giralt, Buenos Aires 

 
Rivadavia, Buenos Aires 

 

Rivadavia, Buenos Aires 

Avenida Entre Rios, Buenos Aires
 
Plaza San Martin, Buenos Aires (Sepia edit)

Like to see more photos? Then check out the link below:

Photography of living ice
http://www.chicloca.com/2016/01/photography-nature-images-living-ice.html


Black and white photos with a splash of colour by Gine Maie

Little acts of kindness while….




Tuesday, 9 February 2016

Finding my niche...Holistic style concept: don't let your clothes wear you!!!




 In a personal message a couple of days ago a reader from this blog asked me a really good question. Why have i set up a blog talking about fashion, style and tips for these areas when there are so may already doing this? While i had an answering feeling i wasn't able to directly put it into words until now. While i started the blog as an experiment, finding my way in social media and putting a lot of the things i was learning into blogging. I found that i do indeed have a message that has gone through my work, social and personal life in the last years. Holistic style is a concept i haven't seen anywhere else, although i see many making similar connections. Holistic style is my ongoing message to the world and is an underlying current in many of the articles i write on this blog. I want to empower the individual by giving knowledge and experiences freely. Create more through sharing than holding everything in for myself. so what is Holistic style?

Holistic style is about empowering the individual to think past the outfit into the realms of personal expression and the choices we have. Looking at how we, many of us use clothing as an unconscious barrier for protection with wishes to hide, to be clearly seen and through this hiding, be age appropriate, to fit in with others, to not fit in with others or simply cover up our body with something so we don't get arrested in the street. The list goes on.

Healthy acceptance of the things we can't change and feel less happy with while being proactive with the ones we can do something about. Ok, you can't change your basic build, but with more education and awareness of health, fitness and the inner workings of our mind and troubles that go with this we can open up many choices of how we want to present ourselves to the world. Choosing our barriers, bridging the gap between inner world and how we wish to be seen. Lastly image in an ever increasingly important topic in todays society. With the emphasis on photos, infographics and everything visual. The way we present ourselves through demeanor and style is important. You know when that person who is in your opinion sightly weirdly dressed walks past wearing what looks like every piece of clothing and jewellery they own, you are making a decision and assumptions about who they are. Or that business person who has gone for the power dressing option of wearing a suit, but in actual fact he looks like every other clone to walk into an office becoming invisible. People see the suit and not the individual making a mockery of the idea of power dressing.  Own the suit, bring forth your personality and conquer, ok not advocating war here but a little living in your own skin is a must for all who want to avoid being used by your own clothing.  Don't sit back and let your clothes overpower you, make choices, take control and let the inner beauty shine through.






 


Other articles that may be of interest in the style genre are:

Style tip: accessories galore
http://www.chicloca.com/2016/02/style-tip-accessories-galore.html

4 Reasons Why You Can develop a sense for style
http://www.chicloca.com/2016/01/reasons-you-develop-sense-style-fashion.html

Style tip: Ignite your world with more color awareness
http://www.chicloca.com/2016/01/ignite-style-world-colour-color.html

Style tip: to hide or expose, that is the question
http://www.chicloca.com/2016/01/style-tip-to-hide-or-expose-that-is.html

Style tip: play, exchange & self empowerment
http://www.chicloca.com/2015/12/style-winter-fashion-accessories.html



Sunday, 7 February 2016

Style tip: accessories galore

 

Whether your style is simple or built on small details that make the final outcome, accessories can really make a difference to an outfit.

Some basic things to consider when choosing accessories:

  • Choose accessories that accent your out fit of the day
  • Consider colours that complement your hair, skin and outfit colours.
  • With jewellery its often the case that we wear the wrong colour. With the choice of gold, silver and rose gold, you should relate the colour you wear to the tone of your skin. more info here.
  • Watch out for over doing it, while its great to accent too much can over power the rest of what you are wearing.
  • Ask yourself what you want to accentuate about your body and out fit of the day. Is it your waist, the find a belt. Your face, then a good pair of earrings and hair drawn back is a great option. 

My personal tips used when i choose accessories:

  • When looking at jewellery like necklaces, earrings, bracelets and rings. i often choose maximum 1 for a relaxed look, 2 for simple with often small earrings. 
  • I won't wear big earrings and a necklace or bracelet and rings. This is an easy way to avoid crowding.
  • When wearing hats be aware of how this affects your hair and if you want a lively hair look later in the day. Many hats flatten hair and bring out natural oils from scalp causing a less than fresh glossy look. A thin barret is great from protecting hair from getting frizzy when traveling outside between meetings and performances. 
  • Belts are great for accentuating your waist and you can wear them at three heights e.g. hips, waistline or empire bust line. These each bring about different lines in the body.
  • If you have beautiful details on a neckline of a dress or top then a half up hair style or completely up hairstyle will show this off. 
  • This one is going to sound funny but be careful of your associations with the use of somethings getting in the way of using it creatively. Take a scarf for example, there are a hundred and one ways to use it as a scarf but it can also be used as a top, as a skirt, as a dress (if big enough), head scarf, belt. Think outside of the box and enjoy your creativity.


  


We have many more great articles on fashion including more style tips to help you with your outfit choices. See below for links or contact us with your style question, it could be the next post!!!


Other articles that may be of interest in the style genre are:

4 Reasons Why You Can develop a sense for style
http://www.chicloca.com/2016/01/reasons-you-develop-sense-style-fashion.html

Style tip: Ignite your world with more color awareness
http://www.chicloca.com/2016/01/ignite-style-world-colour-color.html

Style tip: to hide or expose, that is the question
http://www.chicloca.com/2016/01/style-tip-to-hide-or-expose-that-is.html

Style tip: play, exchange & self empowerment
http://www.chicloca.com/2015/12/style-winter-fashion-accessories.html

Tokyo street fashion, inspired by Manga?
Tokyo street fashion (東京のストリートファッション), inspired Starwars and imitating Manga - See more at: http://www.chicloca.com/2015/12/tokyo-street-fashion-inspired-starwars.html#sthash.I5INGx4X.dpuf
Other articles of interest in the style genre:

Other articles of interest in the style genre:

Other articles in the Travel genre:
Little black dress, all its cracked up to be
http://www.chicloca.com/2015/12/little-black-dress.html - See more at: http://www.chicloca.com/2015/12/tokyo-street-fashion-inspired-starwars.html#sthash.I5INGx4X.dpuf

Other articles of interest in the style genre:

Other articles in the Travel genre:
Little black dress, all its cracked up to be
http://www.chicloca.com/2015/12/little-black-dress.html - See more at: http://www.chicloca.com/2015/12/tokyo-street-fashion-inspired-starwars.html#sthash.I5INGx4X.dpuf
http://www.chicloca.com/2015/12/tokyo-street-fashion-inspired-starwars.html

Little black dress, all its cracked up to be:
http://www.chicloca.com/2015/12/little-black-dress.html

Thursday, 28 January 2016

4 Reasons Why You Can develop a sense for style



Ever felt like you don’t have any idea what is stylish and what is not, throwing on the safest combination of clothes from your wardrobe to simply be dressed. Rather than get frustrated or insecure that what your wearing doesn’t work as an outfit. i am talking to the the guys as much as the girls here.  recently i have been going out and asking friends and acquaintances what they think about style and also putting forward the interesting question ‘ do you feel stylish?’ More interestingly many people i talked to, don’t have a clear sense of what style is and this arises before they can answer whether they are in style or not. The second is that from those who felt they understood style as a topic, couldn’t fathom how to bring this concept into their lives practically. Lastly, the topic that comes to light is wanting to look good but not loose their individuality to a preconceived idea that we must wear high end brands like Versace and Chanel to be stylish. In this article we will look at a definition of style and how everyone including you can develop a sense of style without loosing your identity. In fact with these tips you can feel more sense of self while engaging personal power through informed choice about the way you express yourself in all aspects of life.

 

In the broadest sense style for me is making choices about the way you present yourself, with awareness of how you feel, how you want to impact others and what you need to wear practically to get things done.

1. Build awareness of the choices and influence.

By becoming more aware of the points below, you can better understand some of the influences that should be considered while choosing what to wear. The best thing is only you can answer these for yourself, helping you to define your personal style.
  • Becoming aware of how you feel on any given day and choosing an outfit that brings the most to this.
  • Consider the types of clothes that attract you and the ones that don’t feel right when you wear them.
  • Being aware of what you need to do during the day and the tasks this involves. Be it practical and getting dirty or in the office with a boss you have to impress. Changing if need be to suit the task at hand. 
  • What impression do you want to leave behind in different situations during the day and how can you use your outward appearance to achieve this. 
  • Do you want to fit into the crowd or standing out, the choice is yours.

2. Experiment outside your safe comfort zone, you might just surprise yourself. 

Try out many of the typical styles and see what you feel fits and what doesn’t. Trying out things that go beyond your taste limits quickly inform you where you want to be. Avoiding altogether could mean staying always safe within a basics range you go for each and everyday. Not to mention you might just surprise yourself with what looks good and what feels good. More often than not we like somethings but not others, mixing is good for the individual. After all you are the one wearing the clothes. Why not mix it up a bit wearing punk one day and demure office suit the next.

3. Style is more than clothing it’s about expressing your personality. 

How can you do this if you don’t know, are in hiding, don’t like who you are or are very critical. Be good to yourself and celebrate the great things you like about yourself, accept the things you don’t like and can’t change while getting proactive is getting rid of the ones you can change. This is a great way to boost confidence while creating more awareness of aspects of your character and body that will help later in clothing choices.

4. Choices with expression. 

Sometimes its useful to be part of a crowd, moving inconspicuously. At other times you want to stand out in the room with a clear message to the people around you about who you are and what your purpose is in that moment. Most of the times its great to simply go with the flow of how we are naturally, not thinking about it too much.


i Have at least 7 different versions of Isolde, ranging from training dancer, to teacher, to performer to business owner and then there is me when i am at home chilling out on the sofa. Style is about choice of how people see you, empowering the individual to define themselves in a world all about image, persona and knowledge. Wear the clothes don’t let them wear you!


Other articles that may be of interest in the style genre are:

Style tip: Ignite your world with more color awareness
http://www.chicloca.com/2016/01/ignite-style-world-colour-color.html

Style tip: to hide or expose, that is the question
http://www.chicloca.com/2016/01/style-tip-to-hide-or-expose-that-is.html

Style tip: play, exchange & self empowerment
http://www.chicloca.com/2015/12/style-winter-fashion-accessories.html

Tokyo street fashion, inspired by Manga?
Tokyo street fashion (東京のストリートファッション), inspired Starwars and imitating Manga - See more at: http://www.chicloca.com/2015/12/tokyo-street-fashion-inspired-starwars.html#sthash.I5INGx4X.dpuf
Other articles of interest in the style genre:

Other articles of interest in the style genre:

Other articles in the Travel genre:
Little black dress, all its cracked up to be
http://www.chicloca.com/2015/12/little-black-dress.html - See more at: http://www.chicloca.com/2015/12/tokyo-street-fashion-inspired-starwars.html#sthash.I5INGx4X.dpuf

Other articles of interest in the style genre:

Other articles in the Travel genre:
Little black dress, all its cracked up to be
http://www.chicloca.com/2015/12/little-black-dress.html - See more at: http://www.chicloca.com/2015/12/tokyo-street-fashion-inspired-starwars.html#sthash.I5INGx4X.dpuf
http://www.chicloca.com/2015/12/tokyo-street-fashion-inspired-starwars.html

Little black dress, all its cracked up to be:
http://www.chicloca.com/2015/12/little-black-dress.html

Tuesday, 26 January 2016

Crazy work loads and tip for proper planning in small businesses...






Last summer i found that i wasn't enjoying the biggest aspect of my work anymore and wondered how administration had become so important when i used to be a professional dancer. Running a small self employed business to enable me to work with dance.  I still am a professional dancer in title and can find the funny side now when people ask what you do during the day, as if the classes magically organize themselves. The realization was prompted by these questions and so tightly packing my schedule that i didn't have enough time to eat until late at night, let alone do all the calls that were expected of me. It left me wondering about the moment the meaning of my job changed and whether its a sign of the times that it takes more for a small business to run than in the good old days.




Constant touring during my early years as a dancer also made the administration side a lot simpler to handle. If I covered arranging tour dates, my own promotion, the accounts and dance training there was a sense of fulfillment and my working day while full was done. Adding projects, collaborations and starting a tango school in Utrecht meant that suddenly there was a lot more to do and not enough money in the business to pay for more staff. Its a difficult time for any small business, do you take the gamble and pay someone now knowing that if they are good at what they do they will boost business income within a short time frame. Or do you keep going as you are due to inability to imagine or trust a setup with more than one person. Now my work includes the following list and realistically its far more than one person can do well by themselves.
  • Answering at least 30 emails a day to keep on top on the inbox.
  • Book keeping and accounts
  • Creation of projects and concepts
  • Practical teaching, performing, DJing etc
  • The preparation in training, music preparation and choreography not to mention the ongoing work put into creating clear lessons with an emphasis on thought out didactic clarity making way for a transparent and accessible learning process. Argentine tango is not a difficult dance to learn, it just takes practice.
  • Maintaining and developing the STUDIO Cielito. More than a dance space its been created to give affordable space for dancers, movers and theatres makers. More again in the idea of mutual promotion of many different types of organisation that fall under the cultural banner, through space sharing and collaboration.
  • Maintaining a high level of promotion through up to date websites, use of social media, flyers and design to name a few.

Is it time to gamble?

I went with making the running of my business more efficient and clarifying the processes that would enable someone else to take over the things i am less good at or prefer not to do given the chance. So maybe a gamble is in the future but there is also a possibility to close the gamble gap through efficient procedures and planning, further education in weak areas  like growing in the awareness and people skills needed to make a more informed choice about possible people to bring in as staff later.
With this realization and decision, i began a process of working behind the scenes to simplify and clarify the way my business was running and how i wanted it to move forward into the future. Many small business's will recognize that often when starting small its good to have a clear business plan, branding and promotion plans. But while these are important, they get lost in the process of building and getting out there with your product or service. Its only later when a business is either failing or so successful that the administration work load is excessive due to inefficiency and often outweighing the income to support it. I am just in this process now, my business is successful but the amount of work behind the scenes is crazy and doesn't translate into as many clients as it should. Getting rid of the haphazard way of doing things while implementing procedures and planning that can  enable me
 
 to work more efficiently each day. Also making the processes clearer for handing over to someone else. Due to lack of time i have also had to reduce the amount i am doing in the coming months to give time to this back end process. For any small business not at one of the extremes and presently overworked (not sure this exists, smile), i would strongly suggest to do the business planning while you are small and more simple to manage. Continually update your plan with new projects and services, letting it grow as you grow. You define yourself through it giving you more clarity in bringing possible clients to your business.

At risk of sounding self absorbed, the last thing is probably the most important thing and that is to work on is myself. The more i know myself, my skills, my weaknesses and my special gift. The better i can determine who to bring into my team, searching for someone who have a special gift that strengthens mine, filling in for my weakness's and more importantly adding their own strengths. This could be one person or multiple people creating more of a team feeling. While the present is clarifying, the future is open for the imagination and opportunities that may present themselves.