Showing posts with label choices. Show all posts
Showing posts with label choices. Show all posts

Sunday, 18 March 2018

Gedicht: De Vijver.

De Vijver.


Er was eens, in een tijd geleden, stilte
Als een vijversoppervlak, reflecterend en ongebroken,
Voordat ik wist wat liefde was,
Hoewel ik de emotie had gehad.

Het bonzende in je borst, in afwachting,
Van hete dorstige lippen die je huid strelen,
Harten ontmoeten, maar bang om te vertrekken,
Ik herken de liefde niet in dit alles.

Zelfs toen ik hem aankeek,
Zag ik alleen mijn eigen reflectie,
In de vijvers een gespiegelde blik.

Ik kuste het oppervlak,
Vragen ontvouwde zich met elke rimpeling,
Uitbreidend naar keuzes,
Leidend naar verschillende paden.

Durf lief te hebben of niet,
Achtervolg de droom of zit stil
Blijf of vertrek, doe iets of sterf zonder ooit geleefd te hebben.

Vele replica's van mij in parallelle werelden,
Ontdekken het antwoord anders
Ik kijk terug op de keuzes die ik heb gemaakt,
Nemen mij terug naar dit moment en deze weg.

Eén keuze is altijd in mijn hoofd gebleven,
Om mijn hart eraan te herinneren dat ik het gedurfd heb,
Het besluit is voorbij,
Vervangen door een nieuwe keuze

ik kies liefde

Schrijver: Isolde Kanikani

Saturday, 23 July 2016

The quality of equality, equalizing or celebrating the individual?



At the moment within Compania Cielito we are working behind the scenes to set up a structure of roles for each individual who is also dancing in the group. This enables us to keep the costs down while giving each individual the possibility to give more to the group process through their own professional and personal abilties. Making the team far stronger than if you rely on one individuals capabiltiies that are always and very naturally limited to a set number of skills and weaknesses.

In one of our meetings a question came up about equality from one of our members, who assumed that equality meant that everyone should have control over all aspects of the teams behind the scenes work. It raises an interesting question about equality in relation to effective team work, individuals taking responsibility and authority in areas of expertise. What is equality? whether in a team like ours, the battle between the sexes in the feminist movement or in a relationship between 2 people. In many ways similar to the situation of a communist regime or the purely capitalist approach seen as two extremes.

My take on it is that there are two basic options:

1. Equality can be taken as the giving of equal power and authority in all aspects, usually decisions are made by group consensus with some individuals pushing an agenda. Equalizing regardless of social standing, income, abilities.

2. Equality through the realization that we are all different, with this having different skills, weaknesses, interests, motivations and formed conceptualization about what the world means to us. Within a team or company the hope is to create a team of people with complimentary skills that also bypass the effect an individuals weakness might have.

These different idea of equality are often the reason for misunderstanding within our group process. I wonder now if the first understanding is more governed by personal wish to control rather than trust others to get things done. A personal element also exists that people want to do things they like to do and this approach to equality makes it seem viable.

I am a big advocate of the second understanding of equality. Over the years in various group processes i have started from the first one as an ideal for the way i am working with people. My experience was that there was a lot of inclarity in situations, individuals pushing for things they want or need at the expense of what we do as a collective and at times at the expense of other individuals in the group. It also means that individuals don't feel seen for what they are able to do and often don't recieve enough authority from the rest of the team to be effective.

SO... now in this process i think its time to get clear that we are aiming for a way of working that celebrates the individuals ability within our team, giving them authority by entrusting them with the responsibility to get it done. Actively following their lead and giving help and support when needed. Less formal structuralization and more clarity of our roles enabling a free flow of supporting each other rather than being bogged down with formality and procedure. There will always be things we want to do from another role, sometimes there will be a space for this and sometimes not. I have the feeling people should earn the things they want, in the sense that often more work is created to achieve what is wanted so the individual needs to show they are serious and willing to but the work in to make it worth while. Realising that its more than a playground wim but that there are actual skills involved that need learning and appreciating before some aspects of the team work can be shared. Next challenge is to define this idea of working. More thought needed...



Thursday, 28 January 2016

4 Reasons Why You Can develop a sense for style



Ever felt like you don’t have any idea what is stylish and what is not, throwing on the safest combination of clothes from your wardrobe to simply be dressed. Rather than get frustrated or insecure that what your wearing doesn’t work as an outfit. i am talking to the the guys as much as the girls here.  recently i have been going out and asking friends and acquaintances what they think about style and also putting forward the interesting question ‘ do you feel stylish?’ More interestingly many people i talked to, don’t have a clear sense of what style is and this arises before they can answer whether they are in style or not. The second is that from those who felt they understood style as a topic, couldn’t fathom how to bring this concept into their lives practically. Lastly, the topic that comes to light is wanting to look good but not loose their individuality to a preconceived idea that we must wear high end brands like Versace and Chanel to be stylish. In this article we will look at a definition of style and how everyone including you can develop a sense of style without loosing your identity. In fact with these tips you can feel more sense of self while engaging personal power through informed choice about the way you express yourself in all aspects of life.

 

In the broadest sense style for me is making choices about the way you present yourself, with awareness of how you feel, how you want to impact others and what you need to wear practically to get things done.

1. Build awareness of the choices and influence.

By becoming more aware of the points below, you can better understand some of the influences that should be considered while choosing what to wear. The best thing is only you can answer these for yourself, helping you to define your personal style.
  • Becoming aware of how you feel on any given day and choosing an outfit that brings the most to this.
  • Consider the types of clothes that attract you and the ones that don’t feel right when you wear them.
  • Being aware of what you need to do during the day and the tasks this involves. Be it practical and getting dirty or in the office with a boss you have to impress. Changing if need be to suit the task at hand. 
  • What impression do you want to leave behind in different situations during the day and how can you use your outward appearance to achieve this. 
  • Do you want to fit into the crowd or standing out, the choice is yours.

2. Experiment outside your safe comfort zone, you might just surprise yourself. 

Try out many of the typical styles and see what you feel fits and what doesn’t. Trying out things that go beyond your taste limits quickly inform you where you want to be. Avoiding altogether could mean staying always safe within a basics range you go for each and everyday. Not to mention you might just surprise yourself with what looks good and what feels good. More often than not we like somethings but not others, mixing is good for the individual. After all you are the one wearing the clothes. Why not mix it up a bit wearing punk one day and demure office suit the next.

3. Style is more than clothing it’s about expressing your personality. 

How can you do this if you don’t know, are in hiding, don’t like who you are or are very critical. Be good to yourself and celebrate the great things you like about yourself, accept the things you don’t like and can’t change while getting proactive is getting rid of the ones you can change. This is a great way to boost confidence while creating more awareness of aspects of your character and body that will help later in clothing choices.

4. Choices with expression. 

Sometimes its useful to be part of a crowd, moving inconspicuously. At other times you want to stand out in the room with a clear message to the people around you about who you are and what your purpose is in that moment. Most of the times its great to simply go with the flow of how we are naturally, not thinking about it too much.


i Have at least 7 different versions of Isolde, ranging from training dancer, to teacher, to performer to business owner and then there is me when i am at home chilling out on the sofa. Style is about choice of how people see you, empowering the individual to define themselves in a world all about image, persona and knowledge. Wear the clothes don’t let them wear you!


Other articles that may be of interest in the style genre are:

Style tip: Ignite your world with more color awareness
http://www.chicloca.com/2016/01/ignite-style-world-colour-color.html

Style tip: to hide or expose, that is the question
http://www.chicloca.com/2016/01/style-tip-to-hide-or-expose-that-is.html

Style tip: play, exchange & self empowerment
http://www.chicloca.com/2015/12/style-winter-fashion-accessories.html

Tokyo street fashion, inspired by Manga?
Tokyo street fashion (東京のストリートファッション), inspired Starwars and imitating Manga - See more at: http://www.chicloca.com/2015/12/tokyo-street-fashion-inspired-starwars.html#sthash.I5INGx4X.dpuf
Other articles of interest in the style genre:

Other articles of interest in the style genre:

Other articles in the Travel genre:
Little black dress, all its cracked up to be
http://www.chicloca.com/2015/12/little-black-dress.html - See more at: http://www.chicloca.com/2015/12/tokyo-street-fashion-inspired-starwars.html#sthash.I5INGx4X.dpuf

Other articles of interest in the style genre:

Other articles in the Travel genre:
Little black dress, all its cracked up to be
http://www.chicloca.com/2015/12/little-black-dress.html - See more at: http://www.chicloca.com/2015/12/tokyo-street-fashion-inspired-starwars.html#sthash.I5INGx4X.dpuf
http://www.chicloca.com/2015/12/tokyo-street-fashion-inspired-starwars.html

Little black dress, all its cracked up to be:
http://www.chicloca.com/2015/12/little-black-dress.html