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Thursday, 18 May 2017

Are you stressed, tired, over worked, have the feeling lots of things...

Are you stressed, tired, over worked, have the feeling lots of things are going strange or wrong and people are taking what they can get when you don't have the energy to be strong?
A little while ago i came by accident on a way to deal with my stress. I am someone who gives a 110% in all things that i do and if i feel its not going as well as it should i can easily feel bad about it. This is definitely the case with people who you try to help and for whatever reason the situation turns around on you. From you helping to getting a back lash that can happen for any number of reasons.

Rather than feel bad about the situations and wollow in self pity or the loss of empowermeant you can do something about it. A small tuning in exercise that enables you to get clear, get active and help yourself into a positive state.

Take a deep breath and write the most comprehensive list of all the things you are feeling, what is stressing you out or making you tired and practical things you feel bad about in some way for whatever reason.

Once you have made the list recognize points that are:
1. Feelings to explore but not be ruled by.
2. Practical things that can be sorted out with planning. Make a plan to get them done with a lot extra time than you actually need.
3. Urgent things that you can sort out quickly and will almost instantly give a feeling of relief.

This is one of the most self empowering things i have done for myself in a long time. I keep forgetting that this works for me so i thought by sharing i might remember better myself.

Wednesday, 1 March 2017

Cat door knocking service... Best business idea ever!

I am walking home, gathering ideas about the ideal image of my business in a few years to come. A question I never ask myself with true conviction as I always get ploughed away by whats practical. Scaling down my ideas before I am even started.

So thinking big and out of the box, I am walking through a neighborhood close to one of my studios. It's cold and wet with winds that blow through your clothing leaving you cold to the bone. A lovely little bundle of joy catches my attention, with a not so joyful expression on its face. It runs up to me and then to the door of its home. Sudden clarity comes with my imagination more like leaping out of the box at this point, sprinting into woods and swimming an ocean. Best business idea ever... a cat door knocking service.

To remind cats pets (their owners) that they indeed need to be let inside to the cozy warmth of their territorial home. A door knocking service where some human prawls through neighborhoods on the search for cats in distress. In one moment came the idea and the next second i was laughing openly in the street. But seriously a cat door opening service, genius!

Many individuals are either creative in business or practical. Taking this as their base of operations that defines the way they plan, step into the world and deliver. Learning to balance these forces is key to successful business, indeed successful anything. Creativity is amazing but usually needs to be grounded in the here, possible and now. Be given legs to stand on in order to materialize. Practicality can often close down the mind for possibility. But hand in hand, they can lead us to projects and business plans that are both innovative and grounded in logic.

Coming back to the cat door knocking service. Its one of those ideas that sounds unique but when you analyse it you soon realise its a no go. Ok i have taken an extreme business idea but its some how so apt. SO visualise the situation for a moment cat outside door who is in need of being let in. The cat is the customer is this case with a need that can be fulfilled with a product or service thats not presently being offered. This is a situation where a business could come in. SO clearly we should set up a door knocking service right? But did you ask yourself (again ludicrous situation):
  • Can the cat afford such a service, is the as secondary client interested to pay? Your business can't thrive on cat cuddles however nice these are. Cats will love you one moment and leave you the next (talking as a cat lover). With the best of intentions customers can be the same so make sure a) you have the possibility of being paid in means that are healthy for your business and b) that you create a fair transaction where like quality of service is given for like quality of payment for said service. Valueing yourself, your product or service is vital. Checking that you can indeed make the necessary income to run a healthy business.
  • If the service was to become a reality and a door was opened for said cat, what do you think their response would be. Obvious one would be to run into the house. But what if the cat is scared by the door knocker or not that bothered about getting in even though its cute fluffiness looks distraught right at this moment in time. Quality of the customer or client is really important.
  • All is not as it seems at face value, did you stop to think if the cat had a specific reason for being outside? Maybe its only one cat in a million, then the need is big in this one case but there aren't many clients out there who will seriously need a cat door knocking service. Market research and questioning about the number of available clients, location and reason for the need.
Taking a little time in the beginning can save a lot of time and money later on. Not being scared to think big, bringing creativity and practicality to heel. Its always possible to down size an idea. The big ideas give information about your goals and desires as a business starter and maker that are truly insightful. Planning a strategy for success not only is useful for new businesses but helps to focus the writer on the core goals, clients and finance aspects of a business. Giving a clearer vision of the businesses identity for promotion, who the business is for and how it addresses the need of this target group. After careful analysis of about 30 minutes and a lot of laughing (reason it took so long) i decided that i won't be opening a cat door knocking service.

Sunday, 28 August 2016

Art work and creativity by Isolde Kanikani

 Art has always played a huge part in my life. Whether it be with painting, dancing making music or helping others to make art, its always been there. Taking many forms like modeling for photographers and model shoots. Sometimes these get shown and sometimes remain something hidden or become part of a paid for portfolio by some business or artist or other. Most of all art has been a way of relaxing, expressing present situations and exploring myself in process. The end result being secondary. Now i am finding some of the pictures that have moved me and i am left wondering what to do with this part of my world.

Crutches... New chapter to the crazy chronicles

Thursday 25th august i manage to step down on a spade hard to dig up the stubborn bamboo plant i wanted to take and plant in my new studio. during the forceful action my flimsy shoe breaks and i end up bringing vulnerable flesh down on sharp spade top.  I can't put my weight on it so i crawl through the garden including all the weeds and things i have cut back to leave the garden nice, calling for my father who has fallen asleep in the big armchair in the living room. Then my ex man returns home and finds me half sitting inside and half outside trying not to make a mess of the house with profusely bleeding foot. we bandage it and he picks me up and takes me to the car where we get the foot checked out at the doctor.

Carried into the emergency room and the doctor smiling at the sight, me sheepishly half laughing half smiling. The doctor examines the foot and gives the news that no tendons are broken which is lucky a htis would mean months of recovery. Simply a few nerves might be damages but these will grow back in time. Also that i need a number of stitches but the anesthetic will probably be as painful as the stitches. So i decide to go for the stitches without anesthetic, my god was it painful but i managed to not move or cry out until the last stitch which was directly on a nerve or sensitive point. the last one really throbs even now.

After the doctors and back to the house, i go with my father to pick up some crutches so at least i am able to be a little independent in the next days. Its amazing here, you walk into a shop and hand over your insurance information. Sign a form and eh voula you have rented crutches.

Thursday after getting back home i tried to go to the supermarket just down the road in good old stubborn Isolde style. It was hard and i managed it, but my god do i have a new found respect for anyone who can't simply go to a shop without some walking aid or wheelchair. As a dancer after day 3 i am itching to walk, dance, run, jump as i am used to. so trying to put sunday to use with the finishing of my book.

Saturday, 23 July 2016

The quality of equality, equalizing or celebrating the individual?

At the moment within Compania Cielito we are working behind the scenes to set up a structure of roles for each individual who is also dancing in the group. This enables us to keep the costs down while giving each individual the possibility to give more to the group process through their own professional and personal abilties. Making the team far stronger than if you rely on one individuals capabiltiies that are always and very naturally limited to a set number of skills and weaknesses.

In one of our meetings a question came up about equality from one of our members, who assumed that equality meant that everyone should have control over all aspects of the teams behind the scenes work. It raises an interesting question about equality in relation to effective team work, individuals taking responsibility and authority in areas of expertise. What is equality? whether in a team like ours, the battle between the sexes in the feminist movement or in a relationship between 2 people. In many ways similar to the situation of a communist regime or the purely capitalist approach seen as two extremes.

My take on it is that there are two basic options:

1. Equality can be taken as the giving of equal power and authority in all aspects, usually decisions are made by group consensus with some individuals pushing an agenda. Equalizing regardless of social standing, income, abilities.

2. Equality through the realization that we are all different, with this having different skills, weaknesses, interests, motivations and formed conceptualization about what the world means to us. Within a team or company the hope is to create a team of people with complimentary skills that also bypass the effect an individuals weakness might have.

These different idea of equality are often the reason for misunderstanding within our group process. I wonder now if the first understanding is more governed by personal wish to control rather than trust others to get things done. A personal element also exists that people want to do things they like to do and this approach to equality makes it seem viable.

I am a big advocate of the second understanding of equality. Over the years in various group processes i have started from the first one as an ideal for the way i am working with people. My experience was that there was a lot of inclarity in situations, individuals pushing for things they want or need at the expense of what we do as a collective and at times at the expense of other individuals in the group. It also means that individuals don't feel seen for what they are able to do and often don't recieve enough authority from the rest of the team to be effective.

SO... now in this process i think its time to get clear that we are aiming for a way of working that celebrates the individuals ability within our team, giving them authority by entrusting them with the responsibility to get it done. Actively following their lead and giving help and support when needed. Less formal structuralization and more clarity of our roles enabling a free flow of supporting each other rather than being bogged down with formality and procedure. There will always be things we want to do from another role, sometimes there will be a space for this and sometimes not. I have the feeling people should earn the things they want, in the sense that often more work is created to achieve what is wanted so the individual needs to show they are serious and willing to but the work in to make it worth while. Realising that its more than a playground wim but that there are actual skills involved that need learning and appreciating before some aspects of the team work can be shared. Next challenge is to define this idea of working. More thought needed...

Saturday, 21 May 2016

Are we fated & is there someone looking out for us up there?

Today has been a day of fun, reminders that somehow the universe knows what one needs and difficulty knowing how to act respectfully in regards to a decision one personally completely doesn't understand. Are we regulated by fate, some force to be defined or simply randomly exist without any guidance at all?

This is such an individual topic without right answers, simply a recognition of how you might feel about events in relation to your life and the possibility of choice.

i can only write about my own experiences today. Today i believe that somehow miraculously the universe sent me the things i needed. In not so many words you could say the universe made me feel beautiful and appreciated by sending me asian guys and a really cute guy i would have liked to get to know a bit more but didn't take the opportunity. I was a bit surprised by it to respond. being followed by a car for a few blocks is fairly normal but the important thing is that it made me laugh where i only felt sad before. It seems that when you are on the right path you are looked after by the universe and when on the bumpy side road to no where its simply difficult. i just got on the highway again after quite some years of bumpy.

So is this a form of reward for being in the right place or is fate such that you get the good with the bad. While i can't answer this question i can feel blessed today. Thank you...

Tuesday, 9 February 2016

Finding my niche...Holistic style concept: don't let your clothes wear you!!!

 In a personal message a couple of days ago a reader from this blog asked me a really good question. Why have i set up a blog talking about fashion, style and tips for these areas when there are so may already doing this? While i had an answering feeling i wasn't able to directly put it into words until now. While i started the blog as an experiment, finding my way in social media and putting a lot of the things i was learning into blogging. I found that i do indeed have a message that has gone through my work, social and personal life in the last years. Holistic style is a concept i haven't seen anywhere else, although i see many making similar connections. Holistic style is my ongoing message to the world and is an underlying current in many of the articles i write on this blog. I want to empower the individual by giving knowledge and experiences freely. Create more through sharing than holding everything in for myself. so what is Holistic style?

Holistic style is about empowering the individual to think past the outfit into the realms of personal expression and the choices we have. Looking at how we, many of us use clothing as an unconscious barrier for protection with wishes to hide, to be clearly seen and through this hiding, be age appropriate, to fit in with others, to not fit in with others or simply cover up our body with something so we don't get arrested in the street. The list goes on.

Healthy acceptance of the things we can't change and feel less happy with while being proactive with the ones we can do something about. Ok, you can't change your basic build, but with more education and awareness of health, fitness and the inner workings of our mind and troubles that go with this we can open up many choices of how we want to present ourselves to the world. Choosing our barriers, bridging the gap between inner world and how we wish to be seen. Lastly image in an ever increasingly important topic in todays society. With the emphasis on photos, infographics and everything visual. The way we present ourselves through demeanor and style is important. You know when that person who is in your opinion sightly weirdly dressed walks past wearing what looks like every piece of clothing and jewellery they own, you are making a decision and assumptions about who they are. Or that business person who has gone for the power dressing option of wearing a suit, but in actual fact he looks like every other clone to walk into an office becoming invisible. People see the suit and not the individual making a mockery of the idea of power dressing.  Own the suit, bring forth your personality and conquer, ok not advocating war here but a little living in your own skin is a must for all who want to avoid being used by your own clothing.  Don't sit back and let your clothes overpower you, make choices, take control and let the inner beauty shine through.


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Sunday, 7 February 2016

Style tip: accessories galore


Whether your style is simple or built on small details that make the final outcome, accessories can really make a difference to an outfit.

Some basic things to consider when choosing accessories:

  • Choose accessories that accent your out fit of the day
  • Consider colours that complement your hair, skin and outfit colours.
  • With jewellery its often the case that we wear the wrong colour. With the choice of gold, silver and rose gold, you should relate the colour you wear to the tone of your skin. more info here.
  • Watch out for over doing it, while its great to accent too much can over power the rest of what you are wearing.
  • Ask yourself what you want to accentuate about your body and out fit of the day. Is it your waist, the find a belt. Your face, then a good pair of earrings and hair drawn back is a great option. 

My personal tips used when i choose accessories:

  • When looking at jewellery like necklaces, earrings, bracelets and rings. i often choose maximum 1 for a relaxed look, 2 for simple with often small earrings. 
  • I won't wear big earrings and a necklace or bracelet and rings. This is an easy way to avoid crowding.
  • When wearing hats be aware of how this affects your hair and if you want a lively hair look later in the day. Many hats flatten hair and bring out natural oils from scalp causing a less than fresh glossy look. A thin barret is great from protecting hair from getting frizzy when traveling outside between meetings and performances. 
  • Belts are great for accentuating your waist and you can wear them at three heights e.g. hips, waistline or empire bust line. These each bring about different lines in the body.
  • If you have beautiful details on a neckline of a dress or top then a half up hair style or completely up hairstyle will show this off. 
  • This one is going to sound funny but be careful of your associations with the use of somethings getting in the way of using it creatively. Take a scarf for example, there are a hundred and one ways to use it as a scarf but it can also be used as a top, as a skirt, as a dress (if big enough), head scarf, belt. Think outside of the box and enjoy your creativity.


We have many more great articles on fashion including more style tips to help you with your outfit choices. See below for links or contact us with your style question, it could be the next post!!!

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Tuesday, 26 January 2016

Crazy work loads and tip for proper planning in small businesses...

Last summer i found that i wasn't enjoying the biggest aspect of my work anymore and wondered how administration had become so important when i used to be a professional dancer. Running a small self employed business to enable me to work with dance.  I still am a professional dancer in title and can find the funny side now when people ask what you do during the day, as if the classes magically organize themselves. The realization was prompted by these questions and so tightly packing my schedule that i didn't have enough time to eat until late at night, let alone do all the calls that were expected of me. It left me wondering about the moment the meaning of my job changed and whether its a sign of the times that it takes more for a small business to run than in the good old days.

Constant touring during my early years as a dancer also made the administration side a lot simpler to handle. If I covered arranging tour dates, my own promotion, the accounts and dance training there was a sense of fulfillment and my working day while full was done. Adding projects, collaborations and starting a tango school in Utrecht meant that suddenly there was a lot more to do and not enough money in the business to pay for more staff. Its a difficult time for any small business, do you take the gamble and pay someone now knowing that if they are good at what they do they will boost business income within a short time frame. Or do you keep going as you are due to inability to imagine or trust a setup with more than one person. Now my work includes the following list and realistically its far more than one person can do well by themselves.
  • Answering at least 30 emails a day to keep on top on the inbox.
  • Book keeping and accounts
  • Creation of projects and concepts
  • Practical teaching, performing, DJing etc
  • The preparation in training, music preparation and choreography not to mention the ongoing work put into creating clear lessons with an emphasis on thought out didactic clarity making way for a transparent and accessible learning process. Argentine tango is not a difficult dance to learn, it just takes practice.
  • Maintaining and developing the STUDIO Cielito. More than a dance space its been created to give affordable space for dancers, movers and theatres makers. More again in the idea of mutual promotion of many different types of organisation that fall under the cultural banner, through space sharing and collaboration.
  • Maintaining a high level of promotion through up to date websites, use of social media, flyers and design to name a few.

Is it time to gamble?

I went with making the running of my business more efficient and clarifying the processes that would enable someone else to take over the things i am less good at or prefer not to do given the chance. So maybe a gamble is in the future but there is also a possibility to close the gamble gap through efficient procedures and planning, further education in weak areas  like growing in the awareness and people skills needed to make a more informed choice about possible people to bring in as staff later.
With this realization and decision, i began a process of working behind the scenes to simplify and clarify the way my business was running and how i wanted it to move forward into the future. Many small business's will recognize that often when starting small its good to have a clear business plan, branding and promotion plans. But while these are important, they get lost in the process of building and getting out there with your product or service. Its only later when a business is either failing or so successful that the administration work load is excessive due to inefficiency and often outweighing the income to support it. I am just in this process now, my business is successful but the amount of work behind the scenes is crazy and doesn't translate into as many clients as it should. Getting rid of the haphazard way of doing things while implementing procedures and planning that can  enable me
 to work more efficiently each day. Also making the processes clearer for handing over to someone else. Due to lack of time i have also had to reduce the amount i am doing in the coming months to give time to this back end process. For any small business not at one of the extremes and presently overworked (not sure this exists, smile), i would strongly suggest to do the business planning while you are small and more simple to manage. Continually update your plan with new projects and services, letting it grow as you grow. You define yourself through it giving you more clarity in bringing possible clients to your business.

At risk of sounding self absorbed, the last thing is probably the most important thing and that is to work on is myself. The more i know myself, my skills, my weaknesses and my special gift. The better i can determine who to bring into my team, searching for someone who have a special gift that strengthens mine, filling in for my weakness's and more importantly adding their own strengths. This could be one person or multiple people creating more of a team feeling. While the present is clarifying, the future is open for the imagination and opportunities that may present themselves.

Saturday, 16 January 2016

My first thrift shop adventure

A friend told me about the great finds she bought at a thrift shop a few weeks back and when i was passing one a couple of weeks ago i decided to go in and take a look. I have to admit to having a bit of a barrier about going into these places because while i like the idea of recycling and using things, i didn't think much of the quality a few years ago when i looked in a charity shop. The idea of getting rid of almost new quality things to a place that will sell them at a good price to others and make money for a good cause is great. I have supported this over many years dropping off bags of unwanted things, always finding it easier than simply throwing nice things away. Having found the quality wasn't great before i didn't bother to check out more. I have to also admit a bit of a snob in me associating these places with a feeling you must be desperate to shop there. This is more an association from school where there were always jokes about charity shops and poor people to put it nicely. But going, exploring and seeing the change in these shops was a wonderful surprise. Lovely quality items at a great price. You get a bargain and the shop gets money towards a great cause.

My favorite thing about this new experience is that i have the feeling of finding a creative treasure trove within which the artist in me comes forward. Since moving to the Netherlands i have missed some of the things that don't fit into the highly specific and stylized way of decorating houses, wearing clothes, making restaurant interiors and much more. Even the plants are designed, or this is my feeling anyway. While i love style i thing there should be space for an individual to add their own flair to the mix. For myself i love real wooden furniture, stylized pieces with a bit of wild thrown in.

This experience also made me realize that new isn't necessarily better particularly with this new fashion for fake wooden furniture and endlessly consumerist attitude with buying and getting rid of really great pretty much new things. I am also a culprit of this. With this new fashion of heightened consumerism the quality of things are going down while the price seems to be the same or higher.  have been going almost once a week to a local thrift store finding beautiful things to fuel my artistic license into playing. Not to mention the amazing piano which has given me no end of joy in these last weeks. Playing music by Ludovico Ienaudi and relearning Beethoven's Moonlight sonata late at night in my dance studio.

I strongly suggest the following people search a thrift store out (if you haven't already done so):
  • Vintage clothes lovers
  • Quality furniture searchers. Especially if you have some basic skills with sanding, varnish and painting.
  • Artist in search of... materials, paints, wool, canvas's, picture frames, odd suprise things you never thought to search for but are the finishing touch to a piece you have been searching for. 
  • Small business wanting to get basic furniture for offices and other business type setups. 
  • Interior designers and decorators who want to find interesting things to tweak a final look.
  • Book worms may get lost and come out arms full of books.
  • Mad hatters beware, find the right thrift store and there are hats galore, sorry for the rhyme couldn't resist.

With some love and care there are some beautiful additions to my home and wardrobe waiting out there, not to mention the endless amount of things to get creative with. I realised on my first visit that the quality is in many cases higher in a thrift shop than in some highstreet shops. Not to mention the beautiful things people have brought back from which ever they used to live in or visited on holiday. With a discerning eye you can cut through the things of no value and unique items you can't get anywhere else in hte place where you are living.

Just remember if you are thinking to search a thrift shop (charity shop) out, they are not all made the same. Many are great, some are not. Some have a huge choice in clothing whiles others specialize in office furniture.

Happy exploring!

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Wednesday, 13 January 2016

5 fantastic dances to improve your fitness, which fits your personality type?

Ever wondered why some people tango and others do rock and roll? With a few exceptions that like to mix it up, many people get attracted to different dances. What brings people to a dance in the binning and what keeps people training once they have started? Well I am not sure i have the answers to this but to have a little fun, I have listed 9 dances below and their personality types.

Bohemian thinker / artist

Argentine tango is a mixture of introvert and extrovert. Both for show and social, in full view and danced for the couple alone. Scientists and artists looking for a way to communicate, usually finding hard to do this in every day life. It appeals to the masculine mind with its geometric concepts of lanes and line of dance, circles and angles for turning and much more. Sophistication and trampery in one foul swoop, not to mention the more commonly seen variations in dance couples, men leading men, women leading women gives tango the title Bohemian dance of the group.

Party animal

Salsa - generally extraverted unless you see the natives dance (people dancing a long time to a high level), then it can be slow and sensual. Salsa tends to attract the younger generations who like to party but want something more than simply bouncing around. Full and curvacious, even men will discover hips in this dance. Culture and modern music mixed in a party atmosphere with bright colours and vivacious music filling the whole room,  think carnaval. This dance is queen of the party.

 Sorceress / magician

Flamenco - dramatic outward appearance and a lot more going on inside, strong rhythmic movements. Masculine and feminine mixed together with energy and purpose. Traditional feel and dress exuding the best of old times in performances that make your hair stand up on end. The duality of the masculine and feminine found in this dance rarely seen so equally standing side by side make this the dance of those who want to explore their inner power and expression enabled by the play with live musicians. Making this dance the one divine connection of all things.

    Hippy fest

    Folkdance or Balfolk - high energy, fun with simple movements compared to other dances. Great for getting everyone up on the dance floor, its the social animal of all the dances listed here to the point of attracting all those who don't want to go mainstream. Cross culture sharing, hippy hugging and live music create lots of great sharing experiences with this dance.

    Chilled out groover

    Swing - with different moves set groovily in the 1920s-1940s jazz scene. Golden oldy or nostalgic young one who likes to get a feel for the richness of a whole range of different dances included in this genre. This dance brings lots of great historic references together with the dance that is still very actively danced today and increasing momentum by all accounts. This dance is king of chilling out and variety.

    Please take this as a little fun, i love dancing and think every dance has its charm. 

    Liked this? then it would be great if you share you dance personality, even if its not the dance you actuality dance at this moment. I often wondered at the personalities of different dances and there are so many that aren't on this list. i made a shortlist this time but maybe another time its nice to broaden it out. i hope you enjoy.

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    Tuesday, 12 January 2016

    Style tip: to hide or expose, that is the question

    Where is the line between wearing too much and not covering enough. Probably easiest way to answer this question is to ask what you want to bring to an outfit. Modest and sophisticated for the work place or sexy club outfit. The choice is yours. What intrigues me is where this imaginery line is and how to make more informed choices about what we wear and in this case how much. I am sharing this topic because in the last days i have seen so many women wearing things that look like underwear in public or frumpy clothing that hides all signs that there is a beautiful women under there. It may sound like i am a prude but i have you know i am the first to try a low backless dress, low cut top or short skirt. But i like to look sexy rather than arriving as if i didn't have enough time to dress myself. Deliberate wearing of an outfit also means you can cross a few borders. But for now here are my tips for helping to make an informed choice.

    1. If you can see the outline of your hand underneath a shear dress or top, then you should definitely consider wearing something underneath. Well designed underwear for the out there girl or strapless top for the more conservative women out there. Boob tube type tops are great in these situations if you like to find something inbetween. 
    2. On the experimental first try out mission you have everyone heads turning, and not necessarily in a good way. Take on board what people were noticing and make some changes. While peoples opinion about your clothing choices shouldn't rule you, there is something to be said fr outfits that do everything you want them to do while leaving those around you comfortable. I think there is an art to this. The easiest thing in the world is to wear something shocking.
    3. Wearing a transparent top? then check what else you are wearing. If you wear the top with a short skirt and stiletto heels you might be taken for something you don't want to be. Combining a sexy top with straight leg jeans and heels can be a classy way to add a sexy aspect to your outfit. 
    4. Personally i love the avant garde outfits from the runway and would also love to try out the more wearable ones on the street. Most people can't handle this, so keep in mind that just because you see it on a runway or in a performance setting of some sort, it doesn't mean its suitable for the street or casual parties.
    5. Sexy doesn't mean exposed, often the contrary. Add a little mystery to an outfit and you get a load more heads turning without making people feel uncomfortable about looking and even enjoying. 
    6. If its see through now, know that if a photo is taken there will be even more showing. Choose how far to go now rather than regret the photo online everywhere later. Its a funny tip but with the social network and photo culture we have today its not long before one embarrassing photo becomes public knowledge.
    7. In the end, comfort is the most important thing. If you have a great outfit that is making you uncomfortable its probably doing more harm than good. How can you shine when you are worried about what you are wearing?
    In the end you are the boos, the decision is yours. Make sure its a decision and make the most of what you have without going overboard to the point of over exposure. See below for more style tips and fashion articles.

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    Wednesday, 30 December 2015

    Style tip: play, exchange & self empowerment

    When assembling an outfit its important to think through the different layers and the things you will be doing while wearing your latest choice. Sound funny? Well some pre-thought on this might save you hassle later and keep you always looking good whatever you are putting on or taking off.

    When I talk about layers it refers to the different layers you can put on and the different combinations possible. For example outside you have one look with coat, scarf, boots and trousers, but if it get warm and sunny you loose the scarf and coat, is your outfit still working for you? Are you warm enough? Adding a few thinner layers can help with situations where you are not sure if you will be warm or cold. You can always get rid of these later and don't take much room up in your bag. Does this new combination in your style work colour, texture and combination.

    Even underwear is often forgotten, have you realized that different shaped bras and briefs create different shapes in your silhouette? While this article is mainly aimed at women it goes for men too. The layers underneath have a direct effect on the ones above. If not then take notice the next time you are getting dressed. Underwear although almost never seen can make or break and outfit.

    Second check point is the practicality of an outfit. A clothing choice should live up to the practical requirements you might have until you change. If you are going on a long hike you definitely don't want heels or clothing that restricts movement, on a date you would wear something that makes you feel relaxed and attractive. The other alternative is changing for every different activity which is possible but a lot work.

    Lastly the feel of an outfit is addressing how you feel in it and what image or unconscious reactions do you get from other people. The reactions you want from other people is a good thing to keep in mind when deciding what to wear. We have a great power to decide many aspects of how we are seen by others, too few of us really use it and even fewer use it to bring out the best of themselves. Rather than be ruled by the 'good style choices' we made. An example of this is when you see someone walking down the street in absolutely beautiful clothing that might or might not combine, but its elegant and sophisticated. See the problem, the clothes were wearing the person and the person who had taken all that trouble to find beautiful things remained hidden. Wear your clothes and don't be ruled by them.

    There is a psychology behind this too. While many of us want to be seen we might not be ready for it. Fighting tooth and nail to put up bounderies and hide. Using too much make up and overbearing clothing choices, or worse simply not caring at all.

    For myself i tend to approach an outfit in on from the end result needed or desired if i need to be more effecient while working with a specific look. This then decides the choices about underwear, accessories and layers which work well toward this goal. If i have time and no particular look in mind its fun to build from the underwear up, especially if you are going out. Its nice to take time for the preparation, going with what you feel to be the right thing for that moment, changing if need be. More on this topic another time.

    Winter fashion meets Indian accessories and dynamic colours


    The style tips above can be the difference between getting a job from an interview, a second date or generally just feeling good in your skin. Bring together awareness of layering, activities of the day and suitability, lastly adding the projected image you want to bring when out and about. Make a choice about how others see you and empower yourself today.

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    Sunday, 27 December 2015

    New blogger login, first steps

    The word blog has become universally known as the way to go when you want to make contact with the huge number of people online. But equally big is the idea that now there is such a huge saturation of blogs available and many quality established ones. How does a new blogger make their way in this vast world. I have no idea, but with a wish to learn, energy to drive the blogging engine and a lot of things to write about i hope to create a blog that people enjoy. I am going to share my journey of making a blog and getting it out into the world to receive traffic and hopefully build a returning audience. From 0 to infinity and beyond, ok not buzz light year but you get the gist.


    First steps

    When i finally had decided to create a blog, I began to research the best places to get started. Not knowing much about this world i wanted to start with a free blog and if all went well invest in something more later. 

    My research areas were:
    • what is a blog and how is it different from a website
    • the best free blog hosts
    • how to monetize a blog
    • lastly, how to get traffic


    What is a blog and how is it different from a website

    Blogs and websites have many similarities but some very distinctive differences too. I have read in a number of places that there isn't much difference between them if you are wanting to make money with writing content. Also to see the choice in terms of layout and which one best fits your needs. In the end it comes down to the be all and end all, can you get trafiic.

    A blog is: a series of posts often presented by date and organised latest post first. The word blod comes from weblog and they were originally designed as a personal online journal but since then the available formats have got a little more varied and complex. 

    A website is: content presented in a web pages, very flexible in how you lay these pages out compared to blogs. They are simpler to redesign from the back end than blogs, particularly if you are knowledgable with the different programming languages. While blogs have one step to publishing new content, websites need a ftp program in this process. But this also depends on the website setup you are using. Comparable website publishing to blogger and wordpress could be wix, branded me or any of the other hundreds of free website building places online. With these you also have a 1 click process to publishing content once its been edited and checked. The big differences come when you want to create your own website from scratch. If you start from scratch then another difference would be that websites are a more costly way to publish content.

    In conclusion, websites are a more costly way to publish content but its easier to edit appearance and make choices about layout of content. Blogs bind you in to a specific format for content in the form of posts, but they are often free or cheaper to setup and there are many widgets and plugins available to bring something a little more functionality and design to your layout.

    What did i choose? I already have a website and am in a learning process with this that is always ongoing. I have been making my own websites using a number of programs and management possibiltiies like Joomla. So I was really interested in making a blog and exploring this channel. The fact that blogs are free and have different possibilities of reaching people, including a more informal feel made it different from my website where i have chosen a friendly, informative but slightly removed style for writing and presenting things. For this blog everything is hands on.

    The best free blog hosts

    I don't know about you but i found a sea of free blog platforms when first entering this search. The two that kept on being mention where Wordpress and Blogger or Blogspot. I wasn't really sure which to choose as they both have their merits. 

    There is a really good comparison by Tim Brookes for those of you who want a well laid out comparisons of blogging opportunities.

    In the end i went for blogger or Blogspot because of the seeming freedom it has to do all the basics without much fuss and that i already ahd some experience with it because of an earlier blog page set up for a project organised by Cielito. 

    After having setup and used blogger for a couple of weeks the only thing i would mention as something to check if you are in the dilemma of which one to choose, is to check how easy it is to change code. Blogger seems to be pretty complicated or messy (i don't have the knowledge to know) in the back end which makes changes more difficult for someone with basic coding skills. I don't know how wordpress compares to this.

    How to monetize a blog

    While i found lots of useful information, it seemed that i couldn't implement it until i had got going with a blog and blogging. The main things that came up time and time again was to focus on:
    • creating quality content and including photos, videos and other media to bring interest to audience.
    • Target posts for your desired audience, who are you writing for?
    • Utilise social media platforms as a way to spread the word about your new blog.
    • SEO like formatting the blog for search engines, including: tagging, good permalinks and descriptions of posts to give better search results.
    • Overall idea build traffic in anyway possible while not abusing ways to do this via spam or over publicising to specific audiences. The above ways are a good start.
    So while i am not ready to monetize my blog, i am busy learning to bring in more traffic while hopefully not spamming people with my new enthusiasm. I have also found that giving a little time to finding out who my audience is and my own voice is great. Somehow when many creative projects start there is a beginning time of defining what the project is, how it will look like and who it is for. Also importantly what does it do for them and how is it different from others doing something similar? Basic branding concepts are a really good one to look into, recognition of you blog is important for building audiences and through this traffic. If people recognise, respect and value what you offer they will come back time and time again and even better show others what you are posting. While a new blogger, i have experience in building a business and gained this knowledge from other areas. People like something trustworthy and quality so give them something to chew on and have faith in yourself to get started. It took a little for me to make this step but already in 7 days i am getting over 50 visits a day and have had as many as 800 in one day. Not so much for you experienced ones out there, but i am happy.

    How to get traffic?

    I have the feeling the more creative and the more information about what others are already doing is the way to go here. There are some really great blog lists out there and i would suggest to go through a number of the tips lists to check what you are doing and if you miss any of their suggestions get it done today to build traffic. On the 18th december i know zero about blogging, i know have a little and am seeking to grow a lot. I don't have the answers to  this one yet, but some suggestions so far would be:
    • Don't be too shy to let friends, family, and business contacts know about your blog. this one is for the new writers out there. This was my personal hurdle and i am still not quite there with letting my people know.
    • Sign up to some of the social media sharing sights and build networks there. the bigger and more quality these networks are the bigger your range to advertise to when sharing blog posts. Its not enough to have an account. Unfortunately this task feels a little endless.
    • Content, make sure you are posting quality content with tags and links. With a variety of media, formats depending no the type of audience you are wanting to attract.
    More to come here as i explore further. There is so much information out there available. For me personally i found that creating a basic style sheet for my blog that includes all the important things that must be on there, governing how its looks, the type of voice i will use when writing, social media i will regularly use and build, colours, style of media and photos, advertising?. A basic posting template that helps me remember all the components i want to include in every post which can be built on as i discover more in my search for information.

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    Wednesday, 16 December 2015

    Forever friend cutest cat i ever knew


    Sometimes I think its so rare to truly love and be loved by another person. somehow all the complexities of life interfere with the simple act of loving someone or something. we get too caught up in what it means if we love someone, what we want need or fear from loving and how should be go about doing this in the right way. also in the fantasizing about how it should be if we really fall in love. i am very slowly learning there isn't a right way, but getting my brain to take this on in a practical way is totally different to understanding it intellectually.

    but when it comes to animals we humans (especially the English it seems), have a huge affinity for love with no complications. so i right of the animal that showed me unquestioning love. she had many roles in my life when i was growing up sister, mother, friend, tiger, little monster and Rose the cat that loves me. it may sound strange but i think she shaped the way i relate to people both in physical contact and in the way i love someone.

    The reason i write about love and this Rose is that she passed away on the 20th June 2008. she lived to the age of nearly 20, accompanying me through life from when i was 4 years old. we grew together, loved together, she had fun with tom cats and we looked after her babies, together.

    we used to play this game where she would run off into the house and scatter up to the top of one of the doors, i would chase after her and have to shake each door in turn to make sure she wasn't there. when she was she would jump down and run to the next. in the beginning it was usually because i was trying to catch and put her outside for a while, but eventually it became a game we both enjoyed.

    When she was about 8 months old she started to have many kittens. The first ones died as she wasn't really aware of how to look after them. I learned so much about life and death and suffering from these kittens. but also about the joys of the world. In the beginning we had to feed the kittens with cows milk through little pipets from medicine bottles. They died anyway but it was the trying that mattered, and of course the fact that Rose slowly got the idea that it wasn't enough to get frisky with Tom cats but if she wanted the kittens to live she would have to feed them. she became a very good mother. we ended up keeping 5 of her babies at various times (Bryer, Merlin, Simba, jasper better known as 'little boy' and daisy). as she got older some of the kittens were being born malformed. i was helping her with one litter when I was about 12 years old. there was one baby born with no skin and some of its limbs were missing, but amazingly it lived. i steeled myself, took the kitten outside where there was a big flat rock and I crushed it with another. I was shaking so badly afterwards but it was the right thing to do. it was in such pain and was making these horrible noises. i had to help it. this was the best i could do. she had approximately 70 kittens over all and she filled many peoples lives with the love that only animals can give to humans. in some ways later on she was also a typical Italian big mama, with her boys who sorted her territory in Penzance and then she was retired to Devon where she was loved a lot by my father or Da.

    It was only in her last years that i was away from her a lot (and my father or Da loved her and was loved in return). i have many tears, but know she had a good life. its difficult to think that she died on the day that i really let go of living in the UK. i think somehow she knew this was the time within which everything was changing. She was and will always be deep in my heart, my little tiger, My Rose.